Coping with the long-term effects of trauma can affect emotional well-being and quality of life. C-PTSD can also create challenges in relationships. Experiencing abuse, pain, or other long-term distress can make it difficult to relate to others. Changes in mood and self-perception can also make someone feel like they are no longer the person they used to be. They may lose their sense of self or personal identity.
These and other effects of trauma can lead someone to withdraw from the people they love and isolate themselves. People may do this intentionally or unintentionally, simply because they find it difficult to be around other people. They may feel that others cannot relate or understand what they have been through, and they may also not want to talk about the trauma with anyone who has not experienced it themselves.
People who work with C-PTSD may also have trust issues. Experiencing long-term trauma can make it difficult to feel safe enough to trust other people again. It is possible to overcome these difficulties and learn to trust again, but it may require a patient partner and the help of a trained, compassionate counselor.
Victimization and helplessness can also lead some people living with C-PTSD to unknowingly seek out unhealthy relationships. These may share elements of the original toxic relationship, such as jealousy or passive aggression. Some people may be unconsciously using the current relationship as a way to "redo" or "fix" the past. Other people might be desperate to find a “savior” and ignore the warning signs. Again, treatment for C-PTSD can help by allowing people to learn to recognize the signs of unhealthy relationships and work to avoid them.
While the primary person affected by C-PTSD is, of course, the person who experienced the trauma, the impact of trauma can extend to family, romantic partners, and other loved ones. A partner who wants to offer support may feel hurt when he or she is avoided or excluded. Angry outbursts can make friends, loved ones, or children feel scared or worried. Dissociative episodes and loss of sense of identity can also make partners feel alone or as if their partner has become someone else.
A person living with C-PTSD cannot avoid any of these effects, just as their partner is not to blame. A person with C-PTSD can address their symptoms in therapy and see improvement in all areas of life. Couples therapy or family therapy can also be very beneficial for all members of a family affected by C-PTSD.